Well, if you don't like that sort of thing and rarely see it, I guess it can freak you out. Edited because I belatedly realized I was possibly a bit condescending, and definitely made an assumption there wasn't any reason to make. I try.
But but but, it IS normal that sometimes negativity happens. Damn, it'd be unnormal if it didn't happen. I'd go as far as to say that, in a group of sophisticated well-read people, as you say, people are more used to using their brain and so are generally more critical than the ignorant masses. And while the ignorant masses, I think, tend to get more defensive, personal, and insulting (which to me explains why you thought of a more sophisticated people getting a bit negative as "not normal"), more sophisticated people can actually discuss.
(As a sidenote, on my - relatively small - fandom experience, in TV fandoms defensiveness/getting personal/insults is more common than in book fandoms. I find it interesting, and rather telling.)
I know you said that no one called me a troll, but people saying that the topic was irrelevant had about the same effect
Really? I was mostly amused when they called me a troll. Anyway, I think there have been way more irrelevant posts. (Why House and ABOFAL have tags is beyond me. And the tag "off-topic" is rather telling, methinks. :)) If you'd used different words (i.e. dom/sub instead of foreign seme/uke) and hadn't imposed the idea that top = dom and bottom = sub, people would've discussed what you intended them to discuss.* You weren't too far off.
*Which I think was "which one of them is more dominant and which more submissive?", though because of the aforementioned top/dom, bottom/sub fallacy, it could've also been "which one of them does the buggering?" Although I must confess your exact words are fading from my memory. (And it's 4am, which doesn't much improve my thinking, lol.)
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But but but, it IS normal that sometimes negativity happens. Damn, it'd be unnormal if it didn't happen. I'd go as far as to say that, in a group of sophisticated well-read people, as you say, people are more used to using their brain and so are generally more critical than the ignorant masses. And while the ignorant masses, I think, tend to get more defensive, personal, and insulting (which to me explains why you thought of a more sophisticated people getting a bit negative as "not normal"), more sophisticated people can actually discuss.
(As a sidenote, on my - relatively small - fandom experience, in TV fandoms defensiveness/getting personal/insults is more common than in book fandoms. I find it interesting, and rather telling.)
I know you said that no one called me a troll, but people saying that the topic was irrelevant had about the same effect
Really? I was mostly amused when they called me a troll. Anyway, I think there have been way more irrelevant posts. (Why House and ABOFAL have tags is beyond me. And the tag "off-topic" is rather telling, methinks. :)) If you'd used different words (i.e. dom/sub instead of foreign seme/uke) and hadn't imposed the idea that top = dom and bottom = sub, people would've discussed what you intended them to discuss.* You weren't too far off.
*Which I think was "which one of them is more dominant and which more submissive?", though because of the aforementioned top/dom, bottom/sub fallacy, it could've also been "which one of them does the buggering?" Although I must confess your exact words are fading from my memory. (And it's 4am, which doesn't much improve my thinking, lol.)